Valers replied on 17/07/2020 21:43
Posted on 17/07/2020 21:43
Since my husband died in October 2017 I have been away in our caravan 3 times. The first time was all of half a mile away in a lovely CL site in my village. Friends came and towed the van and stayed with me. The weather was glorious and the idea was that if I couldn't hack it could just go home to sleep, but I stayed the full three nights and sort of enjoyed it but it proved I could do it without him. The second time was around his birthday in August 18 to Robin Hoods Bay,our place, to scatter some of his ashes in the sea. Family and friends joined me and we had a lovely time, I stayed on for the week, well supported by local friends. It helped that it was scorching hot and the dog and I walked miles.The week cost me a fortune as I had to hire a vehicle for my daughter to tow it there and then come back for it. The last time I persuaded my son to tow it to another lovely CL in a nearby market town, he agreed on condition it was the last time and I would have to sell it or find another way to tow it. Again friends and family joined me and the weather was amazing, we all had a really lovely time and I realised I enjoyed being away in the van sort of on my own but with support. Now comes the dilemma, the van is far too big and scary for me to tow and it is sitting on my drive like a gigantic mausoleum, as the rest of his ashes are in there. I can't bear to part with it but can't use it so what do I do? The trouble is it has only been ours as it was brand new so is full of memories, I feel that to part with it would be nearly as painful as losing him. I had thought of changing it for the smallest motor home with a bathroom but it stays as just a thought. I can't be the only widow in my situation so any ideas of what to do would be very welcome.