My husband died.Scared of touring alone.

Posted on 08/04/2018 12:55 by NevChap

So sorry to hear of your loss Bozzer. I'm not a solo caranner but just a thought. When we go away we do chat to others on-site and sometimes offer to help if a neighbour looks to be having difficulty with, say, an awning. However knowing how reserved we as a nation are we do tend to keep ourselves to ourselves. Several times we have spotted 'solo' caranners or motorhomers and have wanted to be a bit more friendly but have been reticent at making the first move. On several occasions we have struck up a conversation with a 'solo' after several days of wondering 'I wonder if they would like a chat rather than a simple hello'. Almost always we have found that yes, they really wanted to chat but didn't want to be the first to initiate the exchange. So, maybe us 'non solos' need to be a bit more forward and spotting someone on their own on-site go out of their way to be a bit more friendly. I'll try to practise this next time we are away.

Posted on 08/04/2018 10:03 by bozzer

My husband died very suddenly last year. we were relatively new to touring in our little "tin can" as he called it, we had only been touring about 4 years, and the furthest we went from home was Edinburgh.

The dream was to tour the whole of the united kingdom... my dream anyway! John was happy just skipping to the east coast / Filey, for a few days. We absolutely loved  our little van and it  became our sanctuary.

I know he would want me to carry on touring , but I'm afraid of heading out on the open road alone.. I did most of the towing so that isn't an issue, and I I'm quite practical, its just a daunting though going alone.

I know that on club sites there will always be someone around to lend a hand if I get in to trouble, its just the getting there that scares me. Are there any other ladies out there that tow alone? 

Can I , should I, do it?

 

Posted on 08/04/2018 19:59 by bozzer

 Thank you all so very much for your kind words and advice.I have  taken the plunge and booked to take our little van to a small site in York over the may day bank holiday. It was the very first place John and I went to when we began our caravan adventures.Its only an hour from home but its a start. I think the advice about joining Mayday is A great Idea and ill get that done ASAP.  We both did the CC towing course when we started out so Im ok with that. It's the fear of something happening on route that is the real worry..I keep telling myself to stop being afraid and just DO IT!  You never know what tomorrow will bring. life is precious. I know John would want me to do it...and hell be with me all the way. Thank you again. Ill keep you posted.                               Ilona 

 

 

Posted on 08/04/2018 19:59 by bozzer

 Thank you all so very much for your kind words and advice.I have  taken the plunge and booked to take our little van to a small site in York over the may day bank holiday. It was the very first place John and I went to when we began our caravan adventures.Its only an hour from home but its a start. I think the advice about joining Mayday is A great Idea and ill get that done ASAP.  We both did the CC towing course when we started out so Im ok with that. It's the fear of something happening on route that is the real worry..I keep telling myself to stop being afraid and just DO IT!  You never know what tomorrow will bring. life is precious. I know John would want me to do it...and hell be with me all the way. Thank you again. Ill keep you posted.                               Ilona 

 

 

Posted on 10/04/2018 08:14 by Extugger

Good news to hear that you're going to a site soon! If you join Mayday then it'll allay your fears and worries whilst travelling 😀

Glad to hear you've done the towing course too and without wanting to sound patronising or condescending, you've had a lot to deal with, have you remembered to get your caravan serviced, tyre pressures etc? 

Also want to second One's (and other's) comments on this thread and IMHO, Vivien is needed in Westminster! 😀